So it’s almost the Easter weekend and it’s month end (which on a farm is paramount in stress levels to bungee jumping off a building… into a sea of sharks) and I plan to use this weekend to relax to the max. So in case I don’t see you until April, here are a couple of things I have loved and learnt in March (jesusmaryandjosephicantbelieveitsalmostapril):
1. My newly wedded husband. After this month, we’re not so much newly-weds anymore. That is until we go on honeymoon in May, and then we’re going to rape that phrase to get as much free shit and upgrades as possible. Oh, you knows it, baby!
2. The last days of summer… The 21st of March was officially the autumn equinox, so I’m super chuffed we managed to get a few sunny days and balmy evenings in before the winter chill sets in properly. We’ve had a taste of the cold already, and I’m not looking forward to it.
3. Spring cleaning my house. We have finally sorted out all kinds of messiness hidden in cupboards and in draws and which was over-looked during the whole wedding planning saga. Un-cluttered house, un-cluttered mind.
4. The health kick. I have absolutely adored watching Andrew and his self-written Plan of Action – there is nothing better than witnessing someone who usually drinks like a fish, smokes like a chimney and eats like an Italian man with ten pasta-making mothers, getting fit and healthy. He’s lost 5kgs, can fit into his old jeans and is actually the one motivating me to get up and running in the morning. Did I mention how HAWT he is looking??? Yay for health, yay for fitness, yay for taking action. There is nothing more annoying in the world than a person who bitches about their weight and then orders a massive burger and chips. Follwed by a slice of cheesecake. And washed down with ten gallons of beer.
5. Getting creative. This month I have been writing a lot and making some pretty stuff for my house. While I do miss the moolah that comes with having a full-time job, I am loving all the time I have had in March to just sit and think. Coupled with the health kick (very little drinking, therefore not many hangovers), I have written some of my best posts this month (in my own humble opinion), including this one, which has brought a load of new readers and followers to my blog. I may have been a little anti-social this month – but I like to call it self-care, focusing on my talents and developing my future career. It would seem that I am not a drunken, intoxicated kind of functional writer. I need a clear, focused mind to write my shiz and hopefully be successful, and if my social life has to suffer a little bit for my dreams to come true, then so be it. A little more hard work and a little less partying never hurt anyone.
6. Twittering like a twat (as Andy would say): I am loving Twitter this month. There is nothing better than having a good laugh at some of the cool banter going on on Twitter (Che, you know I mean YOU). I’m following some really cool, like-minded people and if any of you guys feel like coming to visit me in the Midlands you are more than welcome to come try out our coffee machine. I might even bake a cake….maybe.
7. Looking forward to April: There are some epic weddings and hen do’s happening over the next couple of weeks so April is going to be awesome. And probably not as sober as March, but hey… life happens.
8. Forgiving and letting go: One important lesson I have learnt this month is that you cannot change people, as much as you’d like to. Nor can you help them if they’re not willing to be helped. You just have to accept them for who they are, forgive them for anything they might have done to hurt you, put them in a bubble and blow them far away (I’m taking figuratively here, no need to hire any hot balloons). The only person you can change is yourself. Don’t waste your time and energy moaning about others or wishing that they’d see things the way you do. They will only see when they are ready. Until then, love them, support them, forgive them. Move on. You have your own shit to worry about.
9. Stop worrying about what others say about you. They might not be saying anything at all. You might be imagining it. They might be dealing with their own stuff. Don’t let it bother you. It’s hard to do, but you know who you are. You know how kind and big your heart is. You know how deep you love. I read this beautiful quote off a great website called Marc and Angel Hack Life, and it suddenly all made perfect sense:
Never let someone’s opinion become your reality. Never sacrifice who you are because someone else has a problem with it. Love who you are inside and out. No one else has the power to make you feel small unless you give them that power. You are the only one who can create your happiness.
Boom. BE WHO YOU ARE. Unashamedly and unapologetically – because you sure as fuck can’t be anyone else.
10. Chocolate. ‘Nuff said.
Happy Easter you all – see you on the flip-side.
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